Author: Sharmskee

How to Overcome the The Curse of Comparison

There’s something about being holed up feeling crook that can really do your head in. Aside from the hurts and lethargy of course. That really bombs.

But once you get past that there’s the dangerous mid point where you still have brain fog, you can’t think straight enough to actually do any of the stuff you would usually love to do, the stuff that feels like it’s making life a little bit richer and more awesome, but you’re well enough that your brain is pushing you to do something.

so what do you do?

You might be tempted to fall back on that old procrastination favorite, surfing the Internet. Combine it with a little Twitter and you’ve found the perfect way to spend your precious time without any danger of being compelled to take action. Told you it was deadly.

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Technology in the classroom

Technology is transforming the method Americans connect and conduct business. Yet, it has actually been slow-moving to really take its place in our schools learning programs.  Until lately, technology has been introduced to pupils as an optional versus a full integration and redefining of the way students are educated.
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The truth of the matter is that today, youngsters are maturing in a world considerably different from just what their parents and grandparents experienced. It is an environment of PC’s, software application, and cordless accessibility to details on-the-fly. It is an environment that needs a various collection of capabilities to do well. Hence, it could take quite a while to look into the role that technical innovation plays in your child’s education.

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Tell to Win- What Nelson Mandela and Deepak Chopra can teach you about business

I love stories. They make me come alive. Give me a story to tell and I’ll give you voices and everything (truth be told, it drives my long-suffering hubby mad) but what would you think if the head of the board of directors started with a little story instead of his usual boring rubbish?

OK, I’m using artistic license, lots of it, because I wouldn’t know a board of directors if they came up and danced the cha-cha-cha right under my nose. But I have this image of boring suits and bar charts and looks of dire tedium. If you’ve ever sat in a business meeting you’ll be able to feel the pain.

But what if meetings didn’t have to be like that? Leaving aside my agreement with the 37 Signals guys that meetings are toxic, what if the word meeting was synonymous with entertaining and enlightening?

I read a book this week that made believe in this angelic picture.

I do my thing online. I love that I can connect with people from across the other side of the planet, while still being home in time to pick my children up from school. But I learned why it is that I make extra time to talk to people via video Skype calls instead of text chat (for example.) I thought it was just me but science has reasons why this proper connecting works so much better.

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50 Funny body parts idioms

BEAT-THE-CLOCKI was compiling a list of 50 idioms connected to body parts. and while i googled these phrases, i cracked up. of course, one shouldn’t take idioms by its literal meaning. however, i couldn’t help myself from laughing when i’m reading it sans its figurative content.

don’t take it literally!

an idiom contains words that when taken collectively shows us the figurative meaning of such phrase; otherwise, when each word is taken separately would indicate its usual, predictable meaning that could be readily found in a dictionary. idioms have cultural bearing and localized usage which require outsiders to be familiar with its meaning. however, an idiom’s popularity makes it universally known and used.

the thumb

1. to say someone is all thumbs, means that the person is lacking physical coordination, skill, or grace, or clumsy in doing things. also synonymous with be all fingers and thumbs and be all thumbs.

2. to thumb (one’s) nose means to express scorn or ridicule someone. also used as thumb your nose at somebody/something.

3. thumbs down is used to express rejection, refusal, or disapproval.

4. you say thumbs up means to express approval, success, or hope.

5. to be under (one’s) thumb, means to be under the control of someone or be a subordinate to someone. (more…)

Something like this happened

My GF made plans to go to DC, I tried to find a reason to go there too. I went to see my adviser who told me about an internship I could apply for with one of the state’s senators. It seemed too good to be true, and in hindsight, it was, but at the time I didn’t know how things were going to fall apart, so I was super amped!

As it happened, the position had just opened up a couple of days ago and had not been made available to the student body. My adviser told me that I was a great candidate, I was majoring in political science and had done volunteer work with the mayors office for the past two years. Even though, I still had to go through the entire application and interview process, my chances did look really promising, plus I would have a head start in writing my essay and getting my letters of recommendation.

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Spaces Influence Your learning

Truth is, last night I had a dream that I wrote this post, so now I feel impelled to write it. I dream that I was interviewing a fellow student about how their environment affects their work and it came down to 3 things that actually makes sense, even though it’s all coming from dreamland. Here are the 3 spaces we discussed, funny thing in my dream we were all attending same preparation classes and learning for the GED.

Physical spaces Do I have enough space to create that’s free from chaos and distractions? Do I have all the tools I need to get my job done efficiently? There’s nothing worse than having the energy, inspiration, and the motivation to keep learning, but you don’t – simply because you don’t have or can’t find what you need.

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The Lie in Unlimited

Many motivational speakers and writers like to inspire their followers with unlimited hope. Phrases like – unlimited power, unlimited potential, and life without limits come to mind. Trying to motivate people by telling them there is no limit to what they can do might have the greatest intentions, but it’s misleading.

We DO have limits. To say we don’t is literally a lie.

Your body has limits. If you’re a runner or workout, if you’ve ever been sick, or if you’ve ever been to a funeral then you know this. Your time is limited. If you’ve ever tried to schedule too many tasks in a day then you know this. Even an extraordinary achiever like Steve Jobs knew this:  “Your time is limited so don’t waste it…”
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If the Label Bothers You, Focus on the Person

Occasionally, I’ll read or hear someone say “there’s no proof ADHD is real.” There will always be a little controversy with the ADHD diagnosis and it’s validity. But, when you try to create controversy over a label, you miss the point.

There’s a person behind the label.

Hopefully, there’s no debate about people being real. Does anyone have the right to validate what a real person is experiencing?

If the label bothers you, focus on the person instead – their behavior and qualities, their struggles and strengths. Those things are real with or without the label. No matter what anyone is labeled with, we all just want to understand ourselves better so we can succeed in life. That’s all a person with ADHD wants and that’s what being properly diagnosed helps them do. There’s nothing controversial about that.

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Ways to Learn Empathy Even if You Can’t Relate

Empathy comes more natural when you’ve been through hard times because that makes it easier to relate. But, I wouldn’t wish challenges, suffering, or loss on anyone for the sheer purpose of teaching them a lesson in empathy. So, here are a few ways to learn empathy without having to walk in anyone shoes…

1.  Stop trying to fix everything. JUST listening is one of the simplest ways to be empathetic. Unless you have a magic gold hammer. Then always use the magic gold hammer. But, seriously, depending on the circumstance, most people appreciate having their feelings acknowledged, even if you can’t  fix anything.

2.  Make eye contact. “They wouldn’t say that to my face” is a popular expression for a reason. We’re more likely to be considerate of someone’s feelings if we speak face to face. Even if you don’t understand what someone is experiencing, it’s hard to not empathize with concern, worry, sadness, exhaustion, or pain in someone’s eyes. A phone call is a decent substitute. A voice can also reveal a lot about how someone is feeling.

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Putting Compassion into Cancer Awareness

For 14 months, I lived with someone who was dying from cancer. My father. I was with him nearly every single day of his illness until his last day. Witnessing the dying process up close and personal for a little over a year has changed me. I imagine it’s an experience that would change anyone. It, especially, changed my perception on the meaning of compassion. And I’m going to share with you how exactly. But, first I want you to think about:

What Does Cancer Awareness Mean to You?

Cancer awareness campaigns are everywhere. There are countless products, fundraisers, and marathons marketed to promote a cancer-related cause.

But, what, exactly, are we being made aware of?

No amount of cancer awareness marketing, ribbons, races, t-shirts, wristbands, and the like could have made me aware of the harsh reality that I experienced watching someone I love suffer from this awful disease. If anything, the marketing and the products related to cancer awareness seemed to undermine what a cancer patient and their family actually goes through.

Cancer isn’t Pretty

All the pretty cancer awareness merchandise began to lose their meaning once I became personally affected by cancer. The day I received that phone call on November 2, 2011 and heard the words, “he has 6-9 months.” (more…)