On Questioning the Value of Self-Help

There recently was an interesting article in a major newspaper questioning the value of self-help books. Reading it reminded me of when I had my own epiphany about whether or not personal development books were actually helping me in any way. Like many other people, there had been a point in my life where I discovered self-help. The danger in walking down the self-help aisle is that you typically find yourself there for the first time when you are in a vulnerable position. When something about your life is unsatisfying.

Writers in this genre know this and they write specifically to gain your attention, using titles and promises that play into your hopes and fears. I’m not against helping yourself, and there are certain personal development books that I would happily recommend to friends. In my experience, though, these books have done little to help me succeed in any aspect of my life.

For me, a self-help book has been most useful if I was buying into help for a very specific reason. For example, I worked in management for years and I would read books on leadership and literally implement what I learned on a daily basis. A working manager educating herself on how to manage better is effective. Because I’m already doing the work. I just want to do it better. Kind of like a person who paints every day and buys a book to learn new techniques. That works.

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The World is Not My Mirror

“The world is your mirror” is a common new age philosophy. It means everything you see in others is a reflection of you. Some take this further and say that everything you experience is just a story you tell yourself. So, nothing is real except that which you make real.

But, if the world is my mirror, then… the only relationship I have in life is with myself, I’m incapable of appreciating anything outside of myself, that chemistry I feel in romance is actually with myself, anything I do in service to another person is actually in service to me, nobody is actually “thoughtful” — at least not in the way that implies the person wasn’t thinking of themselves, but others — maybe “thoughtfulness” is just a pretty word for selfishness, and every act of violence and injustice I observe would cause me guilt, since it’s a reflection of me.

If the world is my mirror, then every tear shed over my father’s death was for me. It had nothing to do with my empathy for him and his pain, and for every person who was touched by the loss of his presence, actions, and love.

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Who chooses online learning?

Online university programs have proved to be very beneficial to suit business professionals so they can meet their work and domestic obligations at all times. Now they won’t have to bother anymore with trying to find time for universities courses to obtain a degree. But there are several points to consider when trying to find the right online university program, here is why.

Convenience

Convenience is one reason online courses are helpful to a lot of working professionals. Nonetheless, this is not something you should underestimate. Classes will be tough and you will have to devote a lot of time to your study. This implies you will need to work harder to make sure you don’t produce a lesser quality of work. You should bear in mind that target dates are necessary, even if you could do the program work at your very own pace. This is why you should discipline yourself so you don’t end up with everything at the end.

Read the Syllabus

To make certain you know exactly what to expect, you should read through the syllabus several times during the program. This will keep you focused so you know what is required. Every teacher will have several target dates and requirements. You need to stay in close contact with your teachers consistently because this allows them to learn more about you.

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Perks of Healthcare Postgraduate work
Healthcare ongoing education and learning, besides making it possible for maintenance of proficiency, allows ability enhancement without having to dedicate a lot of time. Besides, you also have the versatility in deciding on the program or curriculum that captures your interest; or what you believe is most essential to your existing experience.

Keep our website as one of your favorites and come back often. The website provides a unique selection of medical care courses, from nursing and medical invoicing to radiology dental care. Besides minimizing time. you also get reasonably priced and highly interactive medical course credit ratings. The focused is on credentials and is “to take sometimes tough course material and dispense it in a varied, easy to keep fashion. Expertise and practices in the education domain develop continually.

According to industry professionals Mike Jameson, Kim J. Chames and Lindsey Carlson, about 50 percent of the know-how acquired in education college becomes obsolete in 5 years. As a result of this, education in healthcare proceeding has become imperative for physicians, medical specialists, nurses and dental experts. As a matter of fact, people’s wellbeing and lives typically depend upon these specialists so they have to keep abreast with the innovations.

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My New Editor Job with the Best GED Classes website

Despite not posting every day, as I had ambitiously envisioned myself doing upon beginning this blog, I have been working on my writing every single day since throwing myself on a roll. Most of this is comprised of learning – reading, reading, reading. However, I did throw myself on a couple of limbs. This is what I was up to;

AT and I also met three times, for several hours each, to work on our brand new script. AT is a hyphenated individual, and by that, I mean test taker-writer-website-maker. I find collaborating a terrific way to get started. It’s great to encourage each other on. Our script is moving along swimmingly so far, and having AT’s expertise in the area, and humor has been tons of fun.

On a side note, on Thursday it was sunny as all get out, so we scheduled our meeting for 3 o’clock on the patio of Las Margaritas in Kitsilano. With both of us in superior spirits, we decided to start things off with a bang – cheers with a shot of tequila, and a pitcher of strawberry margaritas. “Yeah, we’re drinking in the middle of the day! I love the biz!” Unfortunately, the combination of the sun on my pale, freckled body and mid-day boozing found me eventually lying on someone’s front lawn, petting their cat and drinking an enormous cotton candy Slurpee.

Needless to say, Friday’s meeting was alcohol-free. This is what I have to do:

– Meet up with AT a minimum of twice next week.

– Check/edit GED diagnostic tests on the Best GED Classes website.

– Read the Blog About learning

– Read What color is your brain.

– Write my first set of tests

Oh, God, I’m panicking copying the list down. I will put 5 more items on the list down next post. Hopefully, this practice reduces the panic. If not, another shot of tequila might.

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Adults Returning To College: Get Started

Going back to college as a grownup can be a challenging or even scary experience.  We all are aware that you can find numerous skilled and experienced persons who never attended college or who, for whatever reason, never were able to finish their high school degree.

For many people, gaining that piece of paper can turn things around in their professional or personal life, simply the fulfillment of their life time ambition. It’s just that the thought of going back to school after a long period of time could be quite a nightmare.

Very often, people who are going back to school after many years not having been in a classroom, are concerned about not being at the right place. They worry about fitting in a classroom with 18 to 25 year old’s, how to take good notes, how to study properly, and if they could do well on exams.

The process of admissions and obtaining financial aid is usually a puzzling and aggravating experience, but there are really good online programs to help you get through the process. It really is irrelevant what age you are, or how long it has been that you went to school. One thing is certain, you are not alone, millions of grownups have done so before you, just take the first step and you won’t ever regret you did it.

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Telling Isn’t Always Tattling – How Speaking Up Empowers Children

Telling isn’t always the trademark of a troublemaker. Sometimes it’s just a kid’s way of saying “I have no idea how to handle this”. Ignoring or reprimanding the act of telling just makes learning social skills and relationship building that much harder.

We know kids need a teacher for math and reading. Well, social skills are one of the most valuable skills we can learn and too often kids are left to figure it out for themselves. Because they’ve been silenced with “don’t tell” which translates into ”Don’t bring me your problems. Don’t speak up.”

It’s like an early indoctrination into conformity. I’ve been the parent who tells their kid to not tattle and go work it out. But, then I’ll notice their friend won’t do their part to work anything out. Instead, they’ll manipulate their way out of trouble by telling my kid, “Well you can’t tell. That’s tattling.” Too many kids care more about staying out of trouble than working things out.

Eventually, as kids get older, they might reason, “Well, I can’t tell, and I can’t work it out with the source, so I’ll find friends who will listen to me.” And what does that eventually look like? Read more

Is it a good idea to combining finances when you get married?

I was reading a certain blog for other reasons and ran across their entry about whether married couples should combine finances. This is definitely an emotional issue and as a result, people become very opinionated about it. Predictably, I’m sure, I have my own opinions, and I thought I’d do better writing about them here than letting them get lost in someone else’s comments.

I am divorced, so obviously I have been married before. My experience then was that we combined our finances. We had a joint account, and when either of us got paid it went into that account. Now, after my son was born (I think; I don’t remember for sure), I began arranging for a percentage of my income to go to a savings account I had back home that had been open since I had started high school in 1992.

I got married in ‘01 and I think I started doing the savings thing in ‘01 or 03, so do the math. But I thought it would be stupid not to put any money away for a rainy day. No specific reason why, I just vaguely felt it was something I should do. WSe didn’t have it back in the day, but now students can easily compare their hourly pay to what that would mean in a full-time job.

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Those Good Old Goals

So I found this post, over at Rare Bird Freelancer, very helpful. It just outlined how to go about getting out of my horrible little job, into something I chose for myself. The way she put things made everything tangible and possible, if approached step by step. I was also reminded – ah, that pesky business of goals. So necessary, and yet so difficult to peg down, because then you’re accountable. So, without further adieu, my goals for the remainder of the year.

– Post in my blog an average of three times a week. Be an excellent editor for the e-learning website
– Write my first set of three query letters
– Continue meeting with AT to develop screenplay at least twice a week
– Finish reading my new book about freelance writing
– Get business cards made up
– Finally settle on a domain, and snatch it up

I think all of this is attainable. Once August is finished, I’m going to review back on how well I did, and establish some long-term goals – most likely with vision of six months from then.

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Beating the Crap Out of Your Muse

For awhile, I was writing for hours everyday. And I don’t mean, organizing my e-mail inbox, twittering, getting distracted by my stumble button … I mean full-fledged pounding away at the keys, replacing my keyboard at the end of every day. All because somebody had the hare-brained idea of daring me, saying I couldn’t do my writing in mittens.

Not really. But I am known throughout google for my rabbit mittens, as told to me several times now by Google Analytics. So, that ones for you Rabbit Mitten people.

Anyways, I would write up a storm. And then, I would have a moment of self-refection here and there. Sitting in a big comfy arm chair, scribbling in my notebook. On the skytrain, sunlight shooting through the window, broken into fragments, shrapnel, warming me up. I would write in my notebook “I never write anymore.” Yet, I was writing 3 hours a day, 4 hours, maybe even 6 hours once or twice. That’s nothing to shake a lobster at, right?

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